So I’ve had WAY too much time on my hands at work the last few weeks. I’ve done a lot of thinking about lots of things and so I thought I’d put some of them on paper.
Luke and I don’t have much. We have each other, we have my wonderful family and great friends. We have our little apartment and Alli May. We each have our own history degree. We each have a running vehicle and we each have jobs. We don’t have new cars, a big house, and lots of money in the bank or high paying jobs. We can’t go on extravagant trips, buy expensive new furnishings for our apartment, or even afford to eat steak every night for dinner. Some days of the month we scrape by and eat whatever we have in the freezer, make up recipes and hope we don’t run out of gas on our way to work (ok that last one is mostly me). Sometimes we have to split our electric bill and pay half with one check and the other half in two weeks. We live and think pretty simply. A big night out for us is dinner at Texas Roadhouse and a movie at Hollywood Theatres. Dressing up is something other than tennishoes with our “nice” jeans and collared shirt.
When talking about where we might want to go on a honeymoon if we can get the money, neither of us said to a Hawaiian island or a Mediterranean Cruise, neither of us said anything that was a BIG trip. We both said “a quiet cabin in the mountains”. Simple.
With all this time on my hands to think, and reflect on things, I’ve realized I wouldn’t have it any other way. Sure it would be wonderful to be able to pay all our bills at once with out even batting an eye at the bank account. It would be nice to have a new car that we aren’t afraid will break down. I’d love to own a home with a yard for Alli to run in and a place to call OURS. BUT those things aren’t important. We don’t shop at fancy clothing stores or try to live up to other Midlanders standards. We don’t aim to please anyone but ourselves. We simply live our lives with what we have, love and respect each other, have fun staying in and doing nothing, reading together, playing our Wii, cooking and cleaning up the kitchen together, or sitting on the porch and solving the worlds problems for hours on end. We don’t pretend to have more than we do. We have a lot of hand me down dishes & pots & pans. Our bed is a hand me down, the blankets we have we’ve had for years and years.
But what we do have is REAL, true, honest love and respect. We have awesome family and friends, people that, when those materialistic ones would disapprove of our hand me down ways, will still be around, people God placed to walk with us through life.
I know that someday we’ll be in a better place financially, we’ll never be rich unless we decide to play the lottery someday and happen to win J But I know we’ll be better some day, and we’ll be better for it because of these days, months, possibly years that we will struggle. We may struggle financially, but we are SOLID emotionally.
God really has blessed me in a million ways. I am blessed beyond measure, in ways that I am not worthy. But I am appreciative, I am grateful I am eternally thankful for these life lessons and these blessings that I am continually learning from. We are LUCKY people. I pray that we always know how lucky we are.
Wednesday, October 6, 2010
Tuesday, October 5, 2010
Bullying...just rambling
Bullying and Teens
There is a lot in the news lately about teenagers/kids being bullied and doing the bullying in school and out of school, stirs up a lot of weird feelings for me.
I have been both the victim of the bullying and probably should have been punished for partaking in a form of bullying a few times in my adolescents as well.
But I am an adult, I think I’ve learned from those bad experiences and am trying to look at the issue with a non-biased, mature view.
Here’s what I see…There was Phoebe Prince, a pretty young highschool girl from Ireland. Her parents were separated; she was on anti depressants, battled self mutilation and is reported to have even done some “bullying” in her school in Ireland. She was picked on in her high school, called a “whore”, had an empty crushed coke can thrown at her and she hung herself. How do we punish the kids who bullied? Will it stop it from happening again? Does it at all take away from the fact that this girl was battling demons before she met these particular kids and suicide was something she’d already attempted once before? Do we ruin 3-4 other kids lives? Well we already have, these kids were unable to finish High school. They lost scholarships, they have death threats, a large portion of society would recognize them in public. So we bully them, because they were the bullies who supposedly, ultimately, drove Phoebe to suicide…makes sense… :-/
As someone who has been bullied, and as someone who not all that long ago was a teenage girl, I know how helpless you can feel. When the world is against you, you don’t want to go to school, you can not fathom that next week, next month, tomorrow even, this could all be over, and in a few years it won’t even be important. When your friends have all turned their backs on you and talk bad about you and say ugly, untrue things about you to other people ein school. To have people sit in the back of a classroom, people who you were great friends with just a week ago, and listen to them bad mouth and pick everything about you apart. Have them tell your secrets and try to get others to turn against you as well, and sometimes they were successful. I get it, I lived it…but… As an adult now, I know, today might’ve been bad, but tomorrow is a new start. The big difference? As a 16 year old I was 100% emotionally driven in everything I did. Whether being bullied or doing the bullying…it was all emotionally sparked. Thankfully I was very blessed, because I could come home to family who thought I was wonderful. They encouraged me to hold my head up. Told me those mean things that were said were not true if I didn’t allow them to be. Boosted me up and held me high.
My big issue with all this bullying talk is this, and I hope this doesn’t come off offensive but, the boy at Rutgers who jumped off the bridge after his roommate and another “friend” streamed video of him and another man having sex, on the internet. This is horrible, and I cant even imagine the humiliation and betrayal this poor kid felt, pure desperation to even seriously think of jumping off a bridge. And his poor family. Ugh…But his “Bullies” are no more guilty, than the “bullies” who pick on the slow kid at school, or the kids who played a prank on their friend and took it too far, the hazing that goes into clubs & fraternities. But because the victim in this setting is a homosexual, the roommate likely faces harsher charges and longer sentencing. Why? Why is bullying a person for being homosexual any worse than bullying for being overweight, freckled, skinny, Mexican, blonde, rumored sexually active, dating the wrong girl, having a baby, being poor or being rich? Isnt bullying ALWAYS a hate crime? No matter the victim, to bully is a “hate crime”. Why should some kids get a slap on the wrist, but this kid might possibly get “He and his friend now face up to five years in prison for privacy invasion; there is also talk of additional bias charges”-MSN.
Yes I think punishment is required…but everything on the news is geared towards the fact that the victim here was a homosexual. In the case of bullying, again….isnt it ALWAYS a hate crime?
I have no idea where Im going with this…just felt the need to ramble about it…
There is a lot in the news lately about teenagers/kids being bullied and doing the bullying in school and out of school, stirs up a lot of weird feelings for me.
I have been both the victim of the bullying and probably should have been punished for partaking in a form of bullying a few times in my adolescents as well.
But I am an adult, I think I’ve learned from those bad experiences and am trying to look at the issue with a non-biased, mature view.
Here’s what I see…There was Phoebe Prince, a pretty young highschool girl from Ireland. Her parents were separated; she was on anti depressants, battled self mutilation and is reported to have even done some “bullying” in her school in Ireland. She was picked on in her high school, called a “whore”, had an empty crushed coke can thrown at her and she hung herself. How do we punish the kids who bullied? Will it stop it from happening again? Does it at all take away from the fact that this girl was battling demons before she met these particular kids and suicide was something she’d already attempted once before? Do we ruin 3-4 other kids lives? Well we already have, these kids were unable to finish High school. They lost scholarships, they have death threats, a large portion of society would recognize them in public. So we bully them, because they were the bullies who supposedly, ultimately, drove Phoebe to suicide…makes sense… :-/
As someone who has been bullied, and as someone who not all that long ago was a teenage girl, I know how helpless you can feel. When the world is against you, you don’t want to go to school, you can not fathom that next week, next month, tomorrow even, this could all be over, and in a few years it won’t even be important. When your friends have all turned their backs on you and talk bad about you and say ugly, untrue things about you to other people ein school. To have people sit in the back of a classroom, people who you were great friends with just a week ago, and listen to them bad mouth and pick everything about you apart. Have them tell your secrets and try to get others to turn against you as well, and sometimes they were successful. I get it, I lived it…but… As an adult now, I know, today might’ve been bad, but tomorrow is a new start. The big difference? As a 16 year old I was 100% emotionally driven in everything I did. Whether being bullied or doing the bullying…it was all emotionally sparked. Thankfully I was very blessed, because I could come home to family who thought I was wonderful. They encouraged me to hold my head up. Told me those mean things that were said were not true if I didn’t allow them to be. Boosted me up and held me high.
My big issue with all this bullying talk is this, and I hope this doesn’t come off offensive but, the boy at Rutgers who jumped off the bridge after his roommate and another “friend” streamed video of him and another man having sex, on the internet. This is horrible, and I cant even imagine the humiliation and betrayal this poor kid felt, pure desperation to even seriously think of jumping off a bridge. And his poor family. Ugh…But his “Bullies” are no more guilty, than the “bullies” who pick on the slow kid at school, or the kids who played a prank on their friend and took it too far, the hazing that goes into clubs & fraternities. But because the victim in this setting is a homosexual, the roommate likely faces harsher charges and longer sentencing. Why? Why is bullying a person for being homosexual any worse than bullying for being overweight, freckled, skinny, Mexican, blonde, rumored sexually active, dating the wrong girl, having a baby, being poor or being rich? Isnt bullying ALWAYS a hate crime? No matter the victim, to bully is a “hate crime”. Why should some kids get a slap on the wrist, but this kid might possibly get “He and his friend now face up to five years in prison for privacy invasion; there is also talk of additional bias charges”-MSN.
Yes I think punishment is required…but everything on the news is geared towards the fact that the victim here was a homosexual. In the case of bullying, again….isnt it ALWAYS a hate crime?
I have no idea where Im going with this…just felt the need to ramble about it…
Friday, September 17, 2010
Well it’s been about a month since I blogged so I thought I’d take the time to update on a few things that have gone on…
Wedding planning is still going well. We have all the big stuff done, Location, Date, dress, bridesmaid dresses, preacher, musicians, photographer, and lots of decorations. So I think now we can start to fine tune things and start putting decorations together, flower arrangements and what not.
We took our engagement pics, here are a few my favorites. All taken by the wonderful and talented Kendall Wadsworth! Sooooo thankful to have her and her willingness to take time out of her unbelievably busy life to do this for us! LOVE her
Wedding planning is still going well. We have all the big stuff done, Location, Date, dress, bridesmaid dresses, preacher, musicians, photographer, and lots of decorations. So I think now we can start to fine tune things and start putting decorations together, flower arrangements and what not.
We took our engagement pics, here are a few my favorites. All taken by the wonderful and talented Kendall Wadsworth! Sooooo thankful to have her and her willingness to take time out of her unbelievably busy life to do this for us! LOVE her
Wednesday, August 18, 2010
Planning, excitement and a little sadness
Wedding planning, excitement, some sadness; that is all that’s on my mind these days.
Yesterday I had an “episode”, for the second day in a row the song “Elizabeth”-The Statler Brothers, was playing when I walked into my home. See we play music to help mute outside noise so Alli wont bark while we’re bother gone, two days in a row at two totally different times of the day, “Elizabeth” was playing. And yesterday it struck me, something I know, I’ve been used to for a long time - that I don’t have grandparents left here on earth. This is not something I have spent a lot of time contemplating or crying over, its part of life, my parents were both the youngest, and they didn’t have me till they were up in their 30’s so by the time I came around my grandfathers had both passed and my grand mothers were up in age. I am so lucky and grateful that I had them here as long as I did! Mamah Mobley passed away when I was 14, so I had many years with her, lots of my favorite memories were at her house. My Mamah Maberry passed away when I was 18. I have many many memories of her as well. But there are pivotal moments in a persons life when you become more aware than ever that those people are no longer with us here. I heard “Elizabeth” two days in a row, after years of having not heard it at all, and im suddenly VERY aware that I will have no grandparents at my wedding. No grandparents to be ushered in and sat while some special song plays. I know in spirit they’ll be there, but there is a small void, a day which I wish I could share with them, a special moment with grand mothers that brides have, I wont have that. So amongst all the excitement and planning and joy there is a little selfish sadness. But I know they’re smiling on us, and will be with us there that day.
On a whole other note, well still on wedding notes, I am so annoyed with people thinking that my wedding should revolve around them. I will only have 3 bridesmaids, my sister and my two closest friends, the 3 people I Have always known would be standing by me, I refuse to be a bride who asks everyone they know to be a bridesmaid for the sake of evening it out or just to have a large bridal party. Please do not be offended that you weren’t asked. The date we chose, works for US. It’s a perfect time away, not too far, and yet far enough to get the wedding planned with minimal stress. The date, whether you can or cannot come, was not set so that someone couldn’t come; it was not any sort of vendetta against people we don’t want there. On that same note we are choosing to be married in San Angelo, that was a personal choice, the place is PERFECT for the type of wedding we want, not to mention cost efficient, beautiful and fits us perfectly. Having the wedding out of town has NOTHING to do with anything but just that.
Ending on a good note we are trucking along with the planning, as you probably know the date is SET, engagement photos have been taken, dress has been purchased, we began buying decorations and centerpieces and are just having a lot of fun! We are sublimely happy and and so so so thankful for all the support from our families and friends, especially my family in Midland who is just going along with everything I say, want, every Idea I have and running with it! You’re all so amazing!
Yesterday I had an “episode”, for the second day in a row the song “Elizabeth”-The Statler Brothers, was playing when I walked into my home. See we play music to help mute outside noise so Alli wont bark while we’re bother gone, two days in a row at two totally different times of the day, “Elizabeth” was playing. And yesterday it struck me, something I know, I’ve been used to for a long time - that I don’t have grandparents left here on earth. This is not something I have spent a lot of time contemplating or crying over, its part of life, my parents were both the youngest, and they didn’t have me till they were up in their 30’s so by the time I came around my grandfathers had both passed and my grand mothers were up in age. I am so lucky and grateful that I had them here as long as I did! Mamah Mobley passed away when I was 14, so I had many years with her, lots of my favorite memories were at her house. My Mamah Maberry passed away when I was 18. I have many many memories of her as well. But there are pivotal moments in a persons life when you become more aware than ever that those people are no longer with us here. I heard “Elizabeth” two days in a row, after years of having not heard it at all, and im suddenly VERY aware that I will have no grandparents at my wedding. No grandparents to be ushered in and sat while some special song plays. I know in spirit they’ll be there, but there is a small void, a day which I wish I could share with them, a special moment with grand mothers that brides have, I wont have that. So amongst all the excitement and planning and joy there is a little selfish sadness. But I know they’re smiling on us, and will be with us there that day.
On a whole other note, well still on wedding notes, I am so annoyed with people thinking that my wedding should revolve around them. I will only have 3 bridesmaids, my sister and my two closest friends, the 3 people I Have always known would be standing by me, I refuse to be a bride who asks everyone they know to be a bridesmaid for the sake of evening it out or just to have a large bridal party. Please do not be offended that you weren’t asked. The date we chose, works for US. It’s a perfect time away, not too far, and yet far enough to get the wedding planned with minimal stress. The date, whether you can or cannot come, was not set so that someone couldn’t come; it was not any sort of vendetta against people we don’t want there. On that same note we are choosing to be married in San Angelo, that was a personal choice, the place is PERFECT for the type of wedding we want, not to mention cost efficient, beautiful and fits us perfectly. Having the wedding out of town has NOTHING to do with anything but just that.
Ending on a good note we are trucking along with the planning, as you probably know the date is SET, engagement photos have been taken, dress has been purchased, we began buying decorations and centerpieces and are just having a lot of fun! We are sublimely happy and and so so so thankful for all the support from our families and friends, especially my family in Midland who is just going along with everything I say, want, every Idea I have and running with it! You’re all so amazing!
Tuesday, August 3, 2010
We're getting MARRIED!!!
WE ARE ENGAGED!!!!!!!
I still (3 days later) say that and smile like a goof ball!! We are so so so excited!
So I figured I better blog about it before I forget all the emotions and have document it.
July 30, 2010, my 27th bday began as any other day, except, well it was my birthday and I was SUPER excited about that. I went to work that morning, and took ½ a day off, went to lunch with my parents, who I thought were acting kind of strange, mom teared up more than once at lunch and dad grinned everytime I brought up Lukes name! After lunch, mom and I went to buy some earrings for me to wear with my new dress I had purchased to wear on my birthday date with Luke later that night. When I got home Luke was starting my birthday cake He tried so hard. Then we went and played a round of putt-putt. (This was beginning the recreation of our first date which was 14 months and 6 days ago!) And in true Katie Fashion, I kicked butt and WON! haha.
Then we came home and showered, got all dressed up and went to dinner at Clear Springs (my favorite, and the place we went on our first date).
We ate fairly quickly, and were waiting on our ticket, Luke began to act very nervous and anxious, looking at the time every 5 seconds. At one point I took his cell phone to look at the pictures on it and he grabbed it from me and told me there was nothing new in it.
Finally we paid the ticket and we left. In the car on the way home Luke said “Remember when we were planning our first date and said we should slow dance to some cheesy country music?” (See Luke and I are VERY white, we have no rhythm but we do occasionally like to dance like 7th graders to slow country music, we usually end up giggling) I said sure! When we got home I went to the rest room and was washing my hands I could see him kind of pacing in the living room and I instantly thought “Oh my gosh, I think he’s going to do it!” I rushed into the living room, he held out his hand for me to tak and maybe 2 steps into the dance he started his speech. The moments after that are all an exciting blur I remember he said “Do you know you’re the best thing that’s ever happened to me?” and I kissed him and told him I felt the same. Then he began to shake, reached into his pocket and (I know he said some other stuff at this point but I was focused in on his hands) got on one knee and asked me to marry him. I said yes, (I think I said it anyway) Hugged him, put the ring on and I believe at this point I started yelling “REALLY!?! REALLY!?!?” haha we hugged and kissed and squealed, then started calling our parents.
In the mean time, Lukes wonderfully precious attempt at a birthday cake was slowly falling into a large pile of chocolate icing mush...BUT it was quite tasty.
We ate a piece of cake, and we were SO wired we got int he car, went to Sonic (in true Katie/Luke Fashion) got Vanilla cokes and drove around a little bit while we continued to make phone calls.
My ring is beautiful and perfect! He did so GOOD!
I immediately started thinking about dates and places. We, at this point, do not have a set date or location, but we have a few things in the works and in about 2 weeks should know for sure. At that time we’ll announce, maybe send out “Save the Dates” and start working on the fun stuff!!
I am so blessed to have found and to be loved by this wonderful man. FINALLY it is our turn, and its going to be amazing. With the wonderful support of our friends and family then we will be in great shape!
I still (3 days later) say that and smile like a goof ball!! We are so so so excited!
So I figured I better blog about it before I forget all the emotions and have document it.
July 30, 2010, my 27th bday began as any other day, except, well it was my birthday and I was SUPER excited about that. I went to work that morning, and took ½ a day off, went to lunch with my parents, who I thought were acting kind of strange, mom teared up more than once at lunch and dad grinned everytime I brought up Lukes name! After lunch, mom and I went to buy some earrings for me to wear with my new dress I had purchased to wear on my birthday date with Luke later that night. When I got home Luke was starting my birthday cake He tried so hard. Then we went and played a round of putt-putt. (This was beginning the recreation of our first date which was 14 months and 6 days ago!) And in true Katie Fashion, I kicked butt and WON! haha.
Then we came home and showered, got all dressed up and went to dinner at Clear Springs (my favorite, and the place we went on our first date).
We ate fairly quickly, and were waiting on our ticket, Luke began to act very nervous and anxious, looking at the time every 5 seconds. At one point I took his cell phone to look at the pictures on it and he grabbed it from me and told me there was nothing new in it.
Finally we paid the ticket and we left. In the car on the way home Luke said “Remember when we were planning our first date and said we should slow dance to some cheesy country music?” (See Luke and I are VERY white, we have no rhythm but we do occasionally like to dance like 7th graders to slow country music, we usually end up giggling) I said sure! When we got home I went to the rest room and was washing my hands I could see him kind of pacing in the living room and I instantly thought “Oh my gosh, I think he’s going to do it!” I rushed into the living room, he held out his hand for me to tak and maybe 2 steps into the dance he started his speech. The moments after that are all an exciting blur I remember he said “Do you know you’re the best thing that’s ever happened to me?” and I kissed him and told him I felt the same. Then he began to shake, reached into his pocket and (I know he said some other stuff at this point but I was focused in on his hands) got on one knee and asked me to marry him. I said yes, (I think I said it anyway) Hugged him, put the ring on and I believe at this point I started yelling “REALLY!?! REALLY!?!?” haha we hugged and kissed and squealed, then started calling our parents.
In the mean time, Lukes wonderfully precious attempt at a birthday cake was slowly falling into a large pile of chocolate icing mush...BUT it was quite tasty.
We ate a piece of cake, and we were SO wired we got int he car, went to Sonic (in true Katie/Luke Fashion) got Vanilla cokes and drove around a little bit while we continued to make phone calls.
My ring is beautiful and perfect! He did so GOOD!
I immediately started thinking about dates and places. We, at this point, do not have a set date or location, but we have a few things in the works and in about 2 weeks should know for sure. At that time we’ll announce, maybe send out “Save the Dates” and start working on the fun stuff!!
I am so blessed to have found and to be loved by this wonderful man. FINALLY it is our turn, and its going to be amazing. With the wonderful support of our friends and family then we will be in great shape!
Thursday, July 22, 2010
My eyes have been opened
My eyes have been opened wide the last few days and I am in a strange in between world now. Many people I know and love are hurting, they have lost loved ones in unimaginable ways and some have lost loved ones that lived long long lives. Neither is ever easy. But it does make you question your own mortality.
SO many things, trivial things, that I stress about every day, get mad about, annoyed with, are NOT important. My dinner didn’t come out of the oven the way I expected it to. The party didn’t go exactly as I’d planned, I’m 10 minutes late for something…is that important? NO. I get so easily annoyed with people, why? I care so much about how other people think of me or what they say about me, does that matter? No…none of it does…
What does matter?
God matters. The relationship I have with him, which continues to grow and become stronger. My faith in HIM to heal all wounds, physical, spiritual and emotional.
People matter, my wonderful family, amazing parents, loving siblings, nephews, aunts uncles, cousins, all of them-the unconditional love we share and the bonds we have. My partner in life Luke, our love for one another, the time we spend together.
Friendships, old and new, casual and deep. Those people you touch on a daily basis just by your mere presence on this earth. People you love, respect, enjoy and laugh with. Those who you can cry with, yell at, vent to. People who do not pass judgment on you.
People you don’t know, but might know you, those who see you every day, see you smiling, laughing, exuding confidence, and sharing your faith with others.
Being positive, optimistic, having the faith to know that Gods Grace can get you threw the darkest of times.
Prayer matters. Praying, talking to God, thanking him for everything you have and everything you are, praying and asking Him to make you better, help you hear Him, asking Him to watch over others, heal them, comfort them, love them, show them the way.
I feel as though I’ve gained a whole new perspective on life. I want to be better, more positive, more optimistic influence on people. If I were taken from this world today what would people say about me, would they say I was a fun, positive, happy person who influenced them in a good way? I hope so. But I will strive from now on to ensure they do.
I am trying to share these new insights into the importance of people and relationships and love in our lives. I am trying to reach out to people who need this new perspective too. I want everyone to see and feel what I am right now. This petty, trivial junk is NOT important. What’s important is how you handle it, how you talk to God about it….How we influence people, that we make a difference in someone’s life, it doesn’t have to be THOUSANDS of lives, ONE life.
SO many things, trivial things, that I stress about every day, get mad about, annoyed with, are NOT important. My dinner didn’t come out of the oven the way I expected it to. The party didn’t go exactly as I’d planned, I’m 10 minutes late for something…is that important? NO. I get so easily annoyed with people, why? I care so much about how other people think of me or what they say about me, does that matter? No…none of it does…
What does matter?
God matters. The relationship I have with him, which continues to grow and become stronger. My faith in HIM to heal all wounds, physical, spiritual and emotional.
People matter, my wonderful family, amazing parents, loving siblings, nephews, aunts uncles, cousins, all of them-the unconditional love we share and the bonds we have. My partner in life Luke, our love for one another, the time we spend together.
Friendships, old and new, casual and deep. Those people you touch on a daily basis just by your mere presence on this earth. People you love, respect, enjoy and laugh with. Those who you can cry with, yell at, vent to. People who do not pass judgment on you.
People you don’t know, but might know you, those who see you every day, see you smiling, laughing, exuding confidence, and sharing your faith with others.
Being positive, optimistic, having the faith to know that Gods Grace can get you threw the darkest of times.
Prayer matters. Praying, talking to God, thanking him for everything you have and everything you are, praying and asking Him to make you better, help you hear Him, asking Him to watch over others, heal them, comfort them, love them, show them the way.
I feel as though I’ve gained a whole new perspective on life. I want to be better, more positive, more optimistic influence on people. If I were taken from this world today what would people say about me, would they say I was a fun, positive, happy person who influenced them in a good way? I hope so. But I will strive from now on to ensure they do.
I am trying to share these new insights into the importance of people and relationships and love in our lives. I am trying to reach out to people who need this new perspective too. I want everyone to see and feel what I am right now. This petty, trivial junk is NOT important. What’s important is how you handle it, how you talk to God about it….How we influence people, that we make a difference in someone’s life, it doesn’t have to be THOUSANDS of lives, ONE life.
Friday, June 18, 2010
things I've learned and am learning...
I did this a long time ago, got the idea from Miss Kendall...I thought I’d do it again and see how different it is now, from 2 years ago...
Things Ive learned, continue to learn and will learn
1. The most important people in my life are my family, they will always love me and support me unconditionally. My family is derived from the most amazing people to ever walk this earth, and the fruit doesnt fall far from the tree, They're awesome, and I will live every day and try my hardest not to take them for granted.
2. There is something to be said for an organized, clean, neat home...on the otherhand I can say a lot about an unorganized, messy dirty home. Luke and I both have option #2...not a great combination when you're both slobs...i think one of us needs to develop slight cleanliness OCD...
3. Living with a man has been a lot easier adjustment than ever thought it would be. I do believe that when you really love someone that makes things so much easier.
4. I am still working on learning to let go of other peoples judgements on me. I do not have to please everyone, I live for myself, not for other people…someone said once “its not my business what other people think about me” im trying to live that way of thinking.
5. There are times when being selfish is necessary for ones own sense of peace, or ones stability…but there is a fine line that is drawn between that point and being down right ridiculous…most people don’t know where to draw that line. I hope I do.
6. Silly things don’t matter, little annoyances, the bow isn’t put in the RIGHT place, your clothes aren’t hung up in order, there is a comma where a semi-colon should be…those things don’t matter. We’re only here a short period and only GOD knows how short that time actually is, no sense stressing about the small stuff.
7. Luke and I are broke, we live in a teeny apartment, we’re cramped in and everything is a mess around the house, BUT these will be the happy days we will tell our children about and laugh about some day. We will tell them that when we first started out we had nothing, boxes stacked to the ceiling in a tiny apartment, the dog pooped on the floor and usually took up most of our little Full size bed, and we’ll laugh abut how LOVE got us through. When I think of it that way, I’m not so stressed about paying bills or worried about where groceries are going to come from…We should enjoy this time more, and learn from it.
Things Ive learned, continue to learn and will learn
1. The most important people in my life are my family, they will always love me and support me unconditionally. My family is derived from the most amazing people to ever walk this earth, and the fruit doesnt fall far from the tree, They're awesome, and I will live every day and try my hardest not to take them for granted.
2. There is something to be said for an organized, clean, neat home...on the otherhand I can say a lot about an unorganized, messy dirty home. Luke and I both have option #2...not a great combination when you're both slobs...i think one of us needs to develop slight cleanliness OCD...
3. Living with a man has been a lot easier adjustment than ever thought it would be. I do believe that when you really love someone that makes things so much easier.
4. I am still working on learning to let go of other peoples judgements on me. I do not have to please everyone, I live for myself, not for other people…someone said once “its not my business what other people think about me” im trying to live that way of thinking.
5. There are times when being selfish is necessary for ones own sense of peace, or ones stability…but there is a fine line that is drawn between that point and being down right ridiculous…most people don’t know where to draw that line. I hope I do.
6. Silly things don’t matter, little annoyances, the bow isn’t put in the RIGHT place, your clothes aren’t hung up in order, there is a comma where a semi-colon should be…those things don’t matter. We’re only here a short period and only GOD knows how short that time actually is, no sense stressing about the small stuff.
7. Luke and I are broke, we live in a teeny apartment, we’re cramped in and everything is a mess around the house, BUT these will be the happy days we will tell our children about and laugh about some day. We will tell them that when we first started out we had nothing, boxes stacked to the ceiling in a tiny apartment, the dog pooped on the floor and usually took up most of our little Full size bed, and we’ll laugh abut how LOVE got us through. When I think of it that way, I’m not so stressed about paying bills or worried about where groceries are going to come from…We should enjoy this time more, and learn from it.
Thursday, June 17, 2010
Family Reunion 2010
June 11 & 12 the Mobley's all met in Cloudcroft NM for the 2010 Mobley Family Reunion! We had a great time, the weather was cool, it was beautiful and green! Dad and his two older brothers were all three together for the first time in 13 years.
It was a wonderful weekend
Luke and I took a little drive by ourselves before the family all arrived to soak in the scenery and enjoy some "us time" before we were visiting with everyone for the weekend. I twas nice and relaxing
Dad(yongest), Uncle Aubrey(oldest) and Uncle Charles (middle)
Three Mobley boys and their beautiful wives (about 150 combined years of marriage right there)
My beautiful family
Kip, Mike, Dad, Skye, Biran, Mom, Luke and me
First cousins (missing 2!)
Robby, Donna, Skye, Dennis, Me, Brian
All of the Mobley's that attended the reunion
My beautiful sister Skye and me
All three of us at the campfire...i think before brian almost fell int eh fire lol
Me and my honey after his first full family experience :) he's still around, I think I'll keep him!
~In Love~
Well Luke and I have celebrated our 1 year anniversary about a month after we moved in together and our reltaionship just continues to grow stronger and we fall more and more in love everyday. God definately put us together at the right time in both of our lives. I truly believe that God put us together to save one another from the loneliness and unhappiness that we were both experiencing separately. Luke is one of God's greatest blessings to me, and I am grateful.
He and I have not had the easiest go at living together, we do not have total support from all of the people we love and respect, I wish that people could understand that Luke and I have made decisions based on our own feelings, needs, wants, and because it is our life. We made decisions based on prayer, answers from God, our own conscience...What some people may not realize about me, is even though I have, as everyone else, made my own mistakes, and plenty of them, I always know if what I am doing is wrong or right. God speaks to my heart and I know when somehting I am doing is wrong, and I will make this statement, Moving in with Luke has been one of the best and most "right" decisions of my life.
I do not expect anyone to agree with our decision, I do not expect everyone to accept it or give approval. I ask for noones approval. I do, however, ask for respect from people. I think that Luke and I deserve enough respect as ADULTS to make our own decisions, and to accept the fact that we are two, hard working, young but VERY MUCH in love adults living for ourselves, not for anyone else, or following anyone elses rules. EVerything we do is between Luke, Me and GOD. Besides, if Luke and I make mistakes, they're ours to make, the consequences will be paid by us and us alone, we are not hurting anyone else by making decisions that only effect the two of us. But not everyone understands that.
Luke and I have learned and grown so much in the last year. I think that he has learned to relax a bit more, and Ive become a lot more patient. He and I are closer than I ever envisioned being with a man. I am genuinely happy to see him at the end of the day and cant wait to get home when he is off before I am. I do not like to go to bed with out him laying next to me or waking up with him not there and its almost hard to remember a time when he wasnt there.
I feel like we had lives before each other, but my life REALLY began the day Luke and I met. We've been nothing but positive influences on one another, and everyday I am more and more sure of how perfect of a man he is for me.
Living together has been an adjustment, but we have yet to have any major annoyances or arguments, we talk things out, we sit on the back patio and clear the air on any miscommunications. In fact we sit out there almost every night and just talk period. Talking was the basis of our relationship for 10 months, and it is somethign that neither of us are afraid to do, and that is what I believe will make this relationship last until we're both dead and gone, our ability to communicate.
My parents will have been married 45 years this month, they will tell you it hasnt always been easy, and still isnt, but it has been their ability to communicate, compromise and true love for one another that has gotten them here. I couldnt have asked for better role models. Luke and I strive to model our life after theirs, to always talk, and to always love and support each other.
THe last 2 months, living with Luke have been the most wonderful months! Everyday I know I am loved, and I strive to show my love for him. We laugh, we talk, we sit in silence, we sing, we dance, we play with the dog, we genuinely enjoy each other and want to be together. I want to be with him forever, and we will be. Someday the nay-sayers will see that our decisions were what was best for US. That it was noone elses business what we did with OUR lives. And that no matter who disapproved we stayed strong to ourselves, loved each other and ended up in a wonderful long lasting relationship. God has been very very good to us, and will continue to be. I am truly thankful for Year 1 and look forward to the many many years to come.
He and I have not had the easiest go at living together, we do not have total support from all of the people we love and respect, I wish that people could understand that Luke and I have made decisions based on our own feelings, needs, wants, and because it is our life. We made decisions based on prayer, answers from God, our own conscience...What some people may not realize about me, is even though I have, as everyone else, made my own mistakes, and plenty of them, I always know if what I am doing is wrong or right. God speaks to my heart and I know when somehting I am doing is wrong, and I will make this statement, Moving in with Luke has been one of the best and most "right" decisions of my life.
I do not expect anyone to agree with our decision, I do not expect everyone to accept it or give approval. I ask for noones approval. I do, however, ask for respect from people. I think that Luke and I deserve enough respect as ADULTS to make our own decisions, and to accept the fact that we are two, hard working, young but VERY MUCH in love adults living for ourselves, not for anyone else, or following anyone elses rules. EVerything we do is between Luke, Me and GOD. Besides, if Luke and I make mistakes, they're ours to make, the consequences will be paid by us and us alone, we are not hurting anyone else by making decisions that only effect the two of us. But not everyone understands that.
Luke and I have learned and grown so much in the last year. I think that he has learned to relax a bit more, and Ive become a lot more patient. He and I are closer than I ever envisioned being with a man. I am genuinely happy to see him at the end of the day and cant wait to get home when he is off before I am. I do not like to go to bed with out him laying next to me or waking up with him not there and its almost hard to remember a time when he wasnt there.
I feel like we had lives before each other, but my life REALLY began the day Luke and I met. We've been nothing but positive influences on one another, and everyday I am more and more sure of how perfect of a man he is for me.
Living together has been an adjustment, but we have yet to have any major annoyances or arguments, we talk things out, we sit on the back patio and clear the air on any miscommunications. In fact we sit out there almost every night and just talk period. Talking was the basis of our relationship for 10 months, and it is somethign that neither of us are afraid to do, and that is what I believe will make this relationship last until we're both dead and gone, our ability to communicate.
My parents will have been married 45 years this month, they will tell you it hasnt always been easy, and still isnt, but it has been their ability to communicate, compromise and true love for one another that has gotten them here. I couldnt have asked for better role models. Luke and I strive to model our life after theirs, to always talk, and to always love and support each other.
THe last 2 months, living with Luke have been the most wonderful months! Everyday I know I am loved, and I strive to show my love for him. We laugh, we talk, we sit in silence, we sing, we dance, we play with the dog, we genuinely enjoy each other and want to be together. I want to be with him forever, and we will be. Someday the nay-sayers will see that our decisions were what was best for US. That it was noone elses business what we did with OUR lives. And that no matter who disapproved we stayed strong to ourselves, loved each other and ended up in a wonderful long lasting relationship. God has been very very good to us, and will continue to be. I am truly thankful for Year 1 and look forward to the many many years to come.
Wednesday, April 14, 2010
Where has the time gone?
Well, this year has just flown by! Before I knew it March had begun and then ended and I can't believe we're half way through April already! SO much is going on right now and it is a very exciting time in my life!
I had my foot surgery, I am still healing and looking forward to a full recovery when I can wear shoes and walk without pain!
Here is a picture of my incision the day i got my stitches out (2weeks after surgery)
I had my foot surgery, I am still healing and looking forward to a full recovery when I can wear shoes and walk without pain!
Here is a picture of my incision the day i got my stitches out (2weeks after surgery)
Haha! Gross I know....haha!
Anywho This weekend we are moving Luke here to Midland! I am so excited about this! Its been a long 11 months between travelling and going weeks with out seeing each other and only 2 days here 3 days there....FINALLY we get a chance. Friday I am driving to san angelo, picking up Kendalls van (what we're using to move him) and driving on to Waco, then saturday we'll load up and drive back to midland and unload and then sunday morning we'll take Kendalls van back and spend some time out at their house with the Wadsworth clan! So excited its going to be an exhausting weekend but so much fun! And Luke and I will be living toether!
Well thats about all I have to report :) (I better get to work) hahaha
Thursday, March 18, 2010
March Madness
So a few things to report this go around!
We are a 1/4 of the way through the year and already so much has happened! Ok not THAT much but more than usual for me!
Luke is officially moving here mid-May! THat is the most exciting thing thats going on right now is the anticipation of that! We can't wait to be able to see each other and be together like a REAL couple haha! And tired of the lonely weekends and nights! 2 more months!
Last weekend we went to Luke's best friends wedding, he was the Best Man! Jon and Crystal make a beautiful couple and it was a beautiful ceremony! I think they'll make a great life together!
We are a 1/4 of the way through the year and already so much has happened! Ok not THAT much but more than usual for me!
Luke is officially moving here mid-May! THat is the most exciting thing thats going on right now is the anticipation of that! We can't wait to be able to see each other and be together like a REAL couple haha! And tired of the lonely weekends and nights! 2 more months!
Last weekend we went to Luke's best friends wedding, he was the Best Man! Jon and Crystal make a beautiful couple and it was a beautiful ceremony! I think they'll make a great life together!
Don't we clean up nicely? haha
Here is their wedding cake! The most unique cake I've ever seen in person for sure, but totally represented them and their unique personalities.
Also over the weekend I was blessed with the opportunity to spend time with and get to know Luke's mother, Terry and sister, Grace! They are sweet and good people and I look forward to knowing them better! Spending all day long with them with out Luke around could have been incredibly awkward and uncomfortable BUT they were super nice and didnt make me feel out of place at all...and in my opinion I won them over a little :P
It was an exhausting but fun weekend, though, as always I was sad to leave. But I will see him on the 1 of April and then again on the weekend of the 10 of April!
So last week the whole family went to eat at Abuelo's! It was Shannon and Eric's anniversary and Aarons birthday. So mom, dad, Skye, Kip, Mikey, Brian, Marcel, Donna, Eric, Shannon, Aaron, Wyatt and me all went out to eat! It was good to see everyone and spend time with family! I love our little family. We might not be a large family, but we're a good family and we love each other unconditionally.
Funny thing, when the waitress asked if we were celebrating a birthday or anniversary Marcel and I said, yes, both...so when they brought out the desserts they gave them to US thinking it was OUR anniversary lol!! It was too funny...Marcel probably thanks God thats not the case! :)
Next Tuesday (March 23) I will be having surgery on my left foot. I have an "accessory Navicular" bone, which is just what it sounds like, an accessory- or -extra bone attached to my navicular bone. It causes a lot of pain and discomfort so we're going to go in on tuesday and cut it out. Im excited about what possibilities I will have have after recovery. THe shoes I'll be able to wear and I cna start walking again.
I'm gonna stay with the parents for a few days at least after surgery, I dont think that navigating the stairs would be wise at first. I should only be in a walking boot about 4-5 weeks afterward to let the wound heal. Im keeping my fingers crossed for a whole new time after surgery! Hopefully this is what I need, my eyes are fixed, I'll get my foot fixed and then Luke is moving here in May. It's gong to be a whole new start to life and I am really looking forward to it!
Tuesday, February 9, 2010
Rambling
Just a few updates to report.
I went to the Dr last week and my eyes are ALMOST at 20/20!!! Praise God for giving someone at some point the knowledge and gumption to invent laser eye surgery! I was always prepared to always have bad vision and never be able to see, and even after having the surgery was sure I'd have to wear contacts/glasses onve my eyes healed. BUT that is not the case, at least not now! So excited!! Prayers were answered, and the blind can see!
KENDALL HAD THE BABIES! I am so excited for them and continuing to pray for them as they grow and develop and stabilize! The pictures are wonderful and I can't wait to meet them! Their little family is not a family of 5, they are so Blessed. God does listen, He does provide, and He continually blesses us. Im so happy for them. Welcome to the world Hallie Evelyn and Rylan Jackson! I can't wait to meet you!!!
Mike is playing basketball, he seems to be having a ton of fun! It is so much to watch and he is growing so fast! I can't believe he will be 10 this year! Such a good kid!
Luke will be here this weekend for our first Valentines Day! We have a weeknd of fun stuff to do, Im making a big dinner friday, saturday dinner then "The Wizard of Oz" at the community theatre, and sunday a lot of relaxing and maybe a movie? (Dear John. MAYBE) Can't wait to see him! Its been a long month! just a few short months until Luke moves to Midland. THat will be a wonderful day!
Not much else to report...Work is work...nothing new on that front, The parents are doing great, as is the rest of the family.
I went to the Dr last week and my eyes are ALMOST at 20/20!!! Praise God for giving someone at some point the knowledge and gumption to invent laser eye surgery! I was always prepared to always have bad vision and never be able to see, and even after having the surgery was sure I'd have to wear contacts/glasses onve my eyes healed. BUT that is not the case, at least not now! So excited!! Prayers were answered, and the blind can see!
KENDALL HAD THE BABIES! I am so excited for them and continuing to pray for them as they grow and develop and stabilize! The pictures are wonderful and I can't wait to meet them! Their little family is not a family of 5, they are so Blessed. God does listen, He does provide, and He continually blesses us. Im so happy for them. Welcome to the world Hallie Evelyn and Rylan Jackson! I can't wait to meet you!!!
Mike is playing basketball, he seems to be having a ton of fun! It is so much to watch and he is growing so fast! I can't believe he will be 10 this year! Such a good kid!
Luke will be here this weekend for our first Valentines Day! We have a weeknd of fun stuff to do, Im making a big dinner friday, saturday dinner then "The Wizard of Oz" at the community theatre, and sunday a lot of relaxing and maybe a movie? (Dear John. MAYBE) Can't wait to see him! Its been a long month! just a few short months until Luke moves to Midland. THat will be a wonderful day!
Not much else to report...Work is work...nothing new on that front, The parents are doing great, as is the rest of the family.
Thursday, January 21, 2010
Holidays
This was a great holiday season! Luke and I were blessed to spend Halloween, THanksgiving, Christmas and New Years together this year! The first of many I am sure :)
On Halloween we went with my family to the Texas Tech game but we also carve jackolanterns together. This was the first time Luke had ever carved pumpkins before! we had a good time! Here are some pictures from that night! :)
Thanksgiving ws fun. We had it at Skye & Kips house, Luke was here for THanksgiving. Mom and Dad were in Denton at my mom's sisters house so it was just us and a few friends. Food was good, Company was great, good time was had by all!
The friday after thanksgiving, Brian and I drove to Denton where Mom and Dad were and met the Maberry clan for the weekend. ON saturday we went to the new Cowboy Stadium to watch Texas Tech vs Baylor. It was a great time! And boy, What a stadium!
On Halloween we went with my family to the Texas Tech game but we also carve jackolanterns together. This was the first time Luke had ever carved pumpkins before! we had a good time! Here are some pictures from that night! :)
AND the final product!!
Thanksgiving ws fun. We had it at Skye & Kips house, Luke was here for THanksgiving. Mom and Dad were in Denton at my mom's sisters house so it was just us and a few friends. Food was good, Company was great, good time was had by all!
The friday after thanksgiving, Brian and I drove to Denton where Mom and Dad were and met the Maberry clan for the weekend. ON saturday we went to the new Cowboy Stadium to watch Texas Tech vs Baylor. It was a great time! And boy, What a stadium!
Goin' Band! My favorite part of the games! :) They never disappoint!
Christmas was awesome, Luke and I enjoyed each other and spending it together! Christmas eve we went to a Candlelight CHristmas Eve service at Midcities Church, then we drove and looked at Christmas lights, when we got back to the apartment I heated up some apple cider, and Ashley came over and we played the Wii....Christmas morning Luke and I got up, opened each others gifts then got dressed and went to Mom and Dad's. What a great weekend!
Santa definately came!
Yes, he kicked our butts on Wii bowling...I declare a rematch!
New Years weekend, I drove to Waco on New YEars Eve and we forced ourselves to stay awake to watch the ball drop! then crashed! :)
On Friday we just hung out all day, Went to a movie (Avatar) and enjoyed each others company. Onn Saturday we drove up to Denton and had Christmas with Mom's side of the family. Another great long weekend!
Im always a little sad when the holidays are over, but it was a great couple of months and Luke and I got to enjoy our first holiday season together. He has become part of the family and everyone just loves him. We are excited for all the holidays to come...next up? Valentines day! :)
I expect lots of gushy, cliche Valentines Day crap! :) and he should expect the same! :P
Anyway Welcome 2010! :)
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